We know that when our children move out for their job to some other cities or countries, we go through certain type of empty nest syndrome. Me and my wife Rina also went through an initial loneliness, ...
We know that when our children move out for their job to some other cities or countries, we go through certain type of empty nest syndrome. Me and my wife Rina also went through an initial loneliness, but then we realized that it is the way of life. We have two children, our son settled in the US and daughter, in Bengaluru. They are very responsible and help us in whatever way they can. But it is not possible for them to look after our everyday needs.
It is then when we came to know about this organisation “Support Elders” from one of our friends. I especially would like to appreciate and share their passionate way of helping people like us. I had a complicated operation few months back which made my movement a bit restricted. The help and support we both are getting from them now is really appreciable.
I am writing today about one incident to let you know how much I appreciate you as an organisation. Last year during Durga Puja we wished to see some of the pandals nearby and we expressed our desire to “Support Elders”, which they gladly accepted and fulfilled by sending Raja Kar, one of their staff. He came with a taxi in the morning and happily accompanied us to the pandals we intended to visit. He helped us getting in and out of the taxi so carefully as if he is doing it for his parents. No words can really completely capture the joyous feelings in our heart when we think of how satisfied we were that day. The way they keep in touch with us by calling us every day without fail to enquire if we had taken medicines, is there anything we need, is applaudable. Every week a person visits us and help us doing our bank works, spend time with us even if we don’t have any out of home work to do. My wife Rina recently visited Tarakeshwar to offer Puja. She went there without any tension or worry because she knew that “Support Elders” has given her the assurance by telling “Ma’am you carry on with your programme and we will look after Sir”, which they did.
“Support Elders” assistance has been invaluable for our life. The staffs could not have been kinder and more supportive. Our heartfelt thanks and congratulation to “Support Elders” for their remarkable achievement in supporting the elders to feel secured and independent. We would like to express our gratitude to this amazingly helpful foundation for their enormous effort and great sincerity for the elderly people like us.
Asok Kumar Basu, Kolkata
The Buddha said, birth, aging, sickness and death are four universal truths that none can escape. When we are young and full of energy both mentally and physically we tend to forget that we will have to ...
The Buddha said, birth, aging, sickness and death are four universal truths that none can escape. When we are young and full of energy both mentally and physically we tend to forget that we will have to step into the stage of aging and sickness very soon, when we may lose all our vitality and need support to move forward in life. At this juncture strangely, our elders usually part from us to step into their next life and our children either move away from us to create their own families or to hunt for a prospective job and we left alone without any support.
In my personal life I have two daughters, one living in Singapore and the other in Kolkata. They are happily married and enjoying their own families and also take good care of us. But they don’t stay with us, so for day to day we are left alone and need some support. My younger daughter, realizing our limitation connected us to “Support Elders” about two years back and till date we have got immense benefit from this humanistic organisation.
I would like to share my recent experience with all of you just to express my heartfelt gratitude and also to assure you that whenever you are in trouble, “Support Elders” will gladly come forward to help you in a very dedicated and compassionate way.
Recently, my husband got extremely unwell in the middle of the night. The doctor came and diagnosed immediate hospitalisation and surgery. My husband has difficulty in walking, so an ambulance was needed. I called up “Support Elders” and within half an hour their staff arrived with an ambulance. He also helped us a lot for my husband’s emergency admission to the nursing home. Every day without fail “Support Elders” has given me full support by calling me daily to enquire how I was dealing with everything. On the release day another staff came to the Nursing Home to help us and came along with my husband in the ambulance, settled him at home, bought the medicines and so many other things advised by the Nursing Home. As my husband is over 80 years, this sudden surgery was a big trauma for him. He became totally bedridden after the surgery. He could not move or sit by himself, so we thought of renting fowler’s bed for him, to raise it in a sitting position while he took food. Our wish for the fowler’s bed was fulfilled with the help of one of their senior managers. My husband being bedridden I again needed day and night attendants to look after him. Again, I called up “Support Elders” and they arranged for this help too. Personally, I got so tied down with my household work and looking after my husband that I could hardly leave my house. But in present situation I needed lot of finance to meet different expenses. Once again like a loyal family member “Support Elders” came forward to withdraw money from bank on my behalf to help me. Besides these tangible benefits we are getting constant encouragement through daily phone calls and weekly home visits. Through constant interaction, “Support Elders” has become a close family member with whom we can share our joy and sorrow easily and never feel lonely. I salute them with deep regard for the noble and dedicated work they are doing to help and bring joy to the aged community of the society. May they be able to inspire others to come forward with the same mission and try to transform our society to a happy and peaceful place to live in.
Ratna Banerjee, Kolkata
I send my belated thanks to SUPPORT ELDERS for helping me by sending one of their reliable person at 4 a.m in the morning in this cold weather in January 2018 & getting transport ( taxi ) and seeing me ...
I send my belated thanks to SUPPORT ELDERS for helping me by sending one of their reliable person at 4 a.m in the morning in this cold weather in January 2018 & getting transport ( taxi ) and seeing me off with luggage which I was not even allowed to touch while loading.
Debabrata Mookerjea, Kolkata
I live in United States and as I am the only child of parents, my mother lives in Kolkata with her caregiver. My mother is a member of Support Elders since 2016. Last month she suffered a massive ...
I live in United States and as I am the only child of parents, my mother lives in Kolkata with her caregiver. My mother is a member of Support Elders since 2016. Last month she suffered a massive heart failure at home and had to be immediately rushed to the nearest emergency care by Support Elders. She was admitted in ICU and stayed in the hospital for 12 days. During this entire period, team Support Elders helped us immensely. I was here, as every year I come to see my mother during the summer holidays. I informed them of the situation and they promptly took all the action needed during the emergency. I was astonished by the kind of support and service they provided at the time of hospitalisation and the entire stay as well.
I really appreciate their help and thank them for the support and service that they are providing us for our parents. Being a daughter, I can only say that because of them my mother is alive today. All my best wishes to team Support Elders and thanks as always.
Chandana Banerjee, USA
Since my mother and I live in different cities, I had to take the help of Support Elders, and I am so glad I did - their non-commercial, solution-oriented approach is at once refreshing as well as tremendously assuring. ...
Since my mother and I live in different cities, I had to take the help of Support Elders, and I am so glad I did - their non-commercial, solution-oriented approach is at once refreshing as well as tremendously assuring. The organisation has been a pillar of strength for my mother, and my father before that, and in terms of stress relief, has added a good many years to my life as well! Thank you, Support Elders Team.
Sunanda Guha, Mumbai
When my parents’ health started failing, I started searching for a service that I could rely on remotely. After some research and good reference checks I selected Support Elders and I have been very impressed with their services. ...
When my parents’ health started failing, I started searching for a service that I could rely on remotely. After some research and good reference checks I selected Support Elders and I have been very impressed with their services. My parents have also developed a sense of trust with their customer care people. It gives me the peace of mind to know there’s someone available to help my parents 24x7 in case of any medical emergency or just to help them with such chores like accompanying them to the post office or the bank or to the doctor.
CP Pal, Irvine, CA
'Support Elders' given us wonderful 'support' in the past few months through very difficult times. Not just in routine care when your MCAs frequently met my 90 year old father, brought his medicines, went to the ATM for him and ...
'Support Elders' given us wonderful 'support' in the past few months through very difficult times. Not just in routine care when your MCAs frequently met my 90 year old father, brought his medicines, went to the ATM for him and in general, chatted with him and reassured him when he felt helpless! That was just great.
More importantly, your prompt action when my father had to be hospitalised and the support your organisation gave us through the hospitalisation, was exemplary. When my father was discharged, you were personally there to ensure that I had nothing to worry about. I cannot even begin to tell you how grateful I was for your support. My brother tells me that your help for the funeral was also amazing.
Today, you continue to look after my mother who is a terminal case of Alzheimers. We know that it is largely because of your support and assistance that she is well looked after.
I wish you all the very best for the future. May 'Support Elders' continue to grow in strength.
Mrs. Lahiri, Dehradun
Support Elders is an exceptional project, well executed and diligently maintained by a team of dedicated individuals. In the last few months, I had the opportunity to witness their work as they cared for my elderly mother in Kolkata. ...
Support Elders is an exceptional project, well executed and diligently maintained by a team of dedicated individuals. In the last few months, I had the opportunity to witness their work as they cared for my elderly mother in Kolkata. They maintained constant contact with her and helped her whenever she needed. They were always there and present in times of need. The Care Associates were polite, supportive, very helpful and really dedicated to their charge. No job was too difficult or impossible. From retrieving a lost folder from a hospital to procuring a rare vegetable, my mother trusts Support Elders associates to be there when she needs assistance. I thank Support Elders for their wonderful work.
Mr. Sen, USA
After I returned from my ancestral home on the day after Kali Puja, I realised, to my utter dismay, that I had not arranged for my supper. My supper usually comes from a nearby eatery. I have a mobile ...
After I returned from my ancestral home on the day after Kali Puja, I realised, to my utter dismay, that I had not arranged for my supper. My supper usually comes from a nearby eatery. I have a mobile phone but I am very unsure about how to use it and I could not remember whom to call. I became very nervous. When I received the routine evening call from Support Elders, I told them about my predicament. To my great relief, they assured me that they would take care of the situation. And soon a Support Elders Member Care Associate brought steaming hot food for me. Support Elders has made a big difference in my life. God bless them.
Mrs. Mukherjee, South Kolkata
Around 10:00 pm on the 23rd of Nov’15 , I felt a peculiar discomfort in the pelvic region. I went several times to the toilet and also vomited quite a few times. Needless to say my wife was quite worried and ...
Around 10:00 pm on the 23rd of Nov’15 , I felt a peculiar discomfort in the pelvic region. I went several times to the toilet and also vomited quite a few times. Needless to say my wife was quite worried and arranged to call a doctor who stays in our complex itself. In the mean time, my wife contacted Support Elders & they sent two of their MCAs. Both arrived very quickly and there was prompt action taken by Support Elders. Their presence itself gave us a lot of confidence. Later both of them went at that hour ( by then it was almost 11:00pm), to the pharmacy and got us the medicines which were urgently needed at that moment. That service was an excellent one rendered by the two Support Elders employees. We are at peace knowing that there is someone there when there is an emergency and that we can reach out to the Support Elders team whenever we are faced with a medical emergency in the future. Thank you Support Elders for your prompt service & warmth. My wife and I wish you all the best in the future
Mr. Banerjee, Kolkata
I have become a member of Support Elders from Nov. 7, though we have interacted several times earlier. Even in this short time, I am impressed with your service, i.e. regular phone calls every day, and one visit per ...
I have become a member of Support Elders from Nov. 7, though we have interacted several times earlier. Even in this short time, I am impressed with your service, i.e. regular phone calls every day, and one visit per week. The way you provide support during festival days is exemplary, though I joined after Durga Puja. I am an old man of 71 years, and also have various ailments, for which both of us need your support very much. Hope you will continue to provide good service in coming days, which we need very much.
Prof De, Kolkata
And then it is winter………..
Time has a way of moving quickly and catching you unaware. It seems like it was only yesterday that I was young, just married and embarking on ...
And then it is winter………..
Time has a way of moving quickly and catching you unaware. It seems like it was only yesterday that I was young, just married and embarking on a new journey with my mate. And yet sometimes, it seems like eons ago, and I wonder where all the years went by. I know that I lived them well as I catch glimpses of how it was back then and all my hopes and dreams.
I loved playing golf and always enjoyed playing the front nine with my friends…. But here it is, the back nine of my life and it has certainly caught me by surprise. I remember seeing older people through the years and thinking that they were a zillion years away from me…that I was on my first hole and the back nine was so far away that I could not fathom it or imagine fully what it would be like. This is an honest confession of an 88-year-old young man dealing with new aches and pains everyday but still braving it in his own abode as a proud warrior.
With each passing day, I find that just getting a shower is a real target for the day, and taking a nap is not a treat anymore…it is mandatory! And so, I enter yet another season of my life, unprepared for all the aches and pains and the gradual loss of strength and ability to do things. But at least I know that though I am on my back nine and have my share of regrets—there are things I wish I had not done or things I should have done—there are so many things I am happy to have done. It is all a part of life.
I am a proud man drawing a very decent pension, living independently in my own house (a dream that my wife and I had shared). I have children and grandchildren, who are doing extremely well for themselves and extremely caring daughters in law—we speak on Skype, exchange notes and they visit me occasionally and generally care for me and are worried about my wellbeing—but I like staying on my own. My one and only dream is to accomplish as much as I can by myself while staying in the comfort of my own home.
When I came to know about Support Elders Private Limited from a well-wisher and decided to hear them out, I realised that their services seemed to be tailor-made for me. I wanted to live and function independently in the society and occasionally mingle with like-minded company or go out. I want to live for today and say all those things that I want to say and do all the things that I have always wanted to do. After interacting with the Support Elders staff, I felt sure that my needs will be suitably taken care of. The best part about their Medical Emergency Alert Services is the assurance that 24X7 someone is there to react knowledgeably and promptly in case a medical emergency arises and ensure that I reach the nearest medical institution. Even my children support my decision. After a long time, I sensed relief in the voices of my children and grandchildren—this strengthened my conviction that I had taken the right decision.
I believe that life is a gift, and the way one lives is our gift to those who come after. I am enjoying my life fully today and with Support Elders to take care of me, I can breathe easy. I quote Dalai Lama, “Not everyone will understand your journey. That’s fine, it is not their journey to make sense of. It is yours.”
Lt Col ( Retired) Samaresh Nath Bhaduri is a member of ours. We consider ourselves privileged to be a part of his life.
Festivals are happy times. Times to make beautiful memories. But what happens when you are thousands of miles away from home, away from your elderly parents who are haunted by those memories and feel all the more lonely ...
Festivals are happy times. Times to make beautiful memories. But what happens when you are thousands of miles away from home, away from your elderly parents who are haunted by those memories and feel all the more lonely and sad? Soumi Basu shares her story of how unexpectedly her family’s Holi became a happy occasion once again!
I was having a chat with my mother-in-law on the phone. She mentioned that Holi was just around the corner and how these festivals are really difficult for them without us. I had caught her in one of those rare, sentimental moods. Most of the time she sounds happy and strong. But this year had been a bit difficult health-wise for both my parents-in-law. She said she was very happy that both her children are happily married and doing well but sometimes the distance seemed too much. She wished we were in Kolkata.
My parents-in-law have never made me feel any less loved than their own children. And love works both ways. They had ceased to be my parents-in-law and become my parents long ago. I live in Paris and my sister-in-law lives in London. Because of their health problems, both of us had already visited them twice last year and were planning to visit them again in the summer when the children’s schools would break for summer. So, paying them a visit and cheering them up was not a do-able option. But my mother-in-law’s longing stayed with me. I was feeling sad and a little guilty.
I was discussing this hopeless situation with a friend and she told me about Support Elders’ unique idea of visiting elderly parents whose children live away from Kolkata with abeer and sweets. All I had to do was take part in their online contest. I visited their facebook page and shared my most memorable Holi experience with them. A few days later they contacted me for the address of my family. Feeling excited and happy, I shared my parents-in-law’s contact information. I did not tell my parents-in-law anything. I wanted it to be a surprise for them.
The Support Elders team visited my parents-in-law in the morning with abeer and sandesh. They smeared abeer on the feet of the elders as is traditional and hugged them. Not just that, they stayed for a couple of hours, chatting with my parents-in-law, sharing breakfast with them, and listening to their stories. The best part was the team clicking photos of my happy in-laws and sending them to us. It was the best Holi gift ever!
I called my parents-in-law later to wish them a happy Holi. With the time difference, it was just early morning for us—the Support Elders team had already visited them and my in-laws sounded so happy and excited. My mother-in-law kept telling me how nice it was and that the team that had visited them were so warm, friendly and well-mannered and just like her own children. My father-in-law, a man of very few words, went all emotional and said it felt like his children had put abeer on his feet. He told me, “I bless my children and the team with all my heart. I am proud that we have raised such sensitive children.”
Even though we were thousands of miles away from them, thanks to Support Elders I have never felt closer to them. A truly unique concept carried out with a very generous heart!